50 years from now you want to be able to say you chose your life, not settled for it.
Hello everyone and Happy Monday!
I cant believe its actually Monday again. The weeks have been flying by here at Life of Ria Headquarters (aka my living room). I think that its finally starting to get cooler outside, too, which has been much needed after a painfully hot summer like the one Reno just had!
Today I’m going to be blogging a bit about grabbing life by the horns, and choosing which way you’d like life to go.
What do you mean?
Now obviously sometimes things happen that are out of our control, and often times they happen for the better. When I talk about controlling your life, I dont mean having the entire thing mapped out day by day. Instead I mean that you decided when things weren’t going the way you wanted, and being bold enough to change them for yourself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about what ‘future me’ is going to think of my decisions. Who doesn’t want to be that grandma that one day has cool stories to tell my grandkids about my life. I want to be able to tell them that I went on adventures and met cool people and ultimately, that I chose to make my life the best it could be!
I want to be able to tell them about how I left the job that wasn’t what I wanted, or stopped spending time with the friends that were bringing me down. And hopefully, I’ll have something cool at the end to show for it!
So often, I feel like we get wrapped up in the romanticized idea of fate and coincidence working in our favor that we end up letting life just “happen” to us. We stay in that job that we hate. Or maybe its a relationship we know isn’t good for us. I’ve heard so many stories of people who are unhappily single that go home every night and watch netflix and hope that they’ll find love on their weekly grocery store trip.
The truth is, sooner than we realize we’ll be those grandparents telling our grandkids stories about our lives. Not to sound morbid, but our clocks are ticking. We dont have time to let things fall into place sometimes! Sometimes you need to go out there and get what you want.
I’m a believer that once you make the first move, God (or fate, or luck, or the universe, or whatever you want to call it) will step in to help you get there.
But, we only get one shot at life, so I say we go after what we want, full speed ahead! Dont just let things “happen”, and then complain when they aren’t going right!
My advice to you
If you opened this email or clicked on this link, chances are there was something in your mind that felt like life was happening to you.
So. Apply for new jobs. Leave that person that makes you unhappy. Move away from the city that makes you miserable. Or, move to the one you’ve always wanted to live in. Write that book. Start that blog. Trademark that idea. Go out and meet people. Be a “yes” man. Create those stories for your grandkids, the way you want to be telling them later.